The Role Of Same-sex Friendship In Personality Formation

Most people accept that friendships are based on same-sex friendships. These friendships are most common in high school groups of boys or girls who often move with each other. The popular teenage TV series “The Leading B*tch”, which is based on the society’s views about same-sex friendship, is well-known. Making friends with the same sex is a necessary task in early adolescence. There are many reasons to befriend someone, but all will point to the end goal of personality formation.

Teenagers’ independence, self-esteem, communication and friendship skills increase in early adolescence. During this time, anxiety disorders and other mental problems are common. Qing Liu (2013) states that teenagers seek to belong in society. But, since they spend most of their time in school, they are more likely to find belonging in their friends. High school is a new place for many people. They will soon feel isolated and need to identify themselves. It is possible to make friends and share their feelings of loneliness with other students. High school students have less life experience than adults due to their young age. Because they are still developing their personalities, this can lead to dependence on others. Students tend to be more focused on the relationships they have with their closest friends and classmates, so they rely on them. The survey by Mei Zhang (2016), which included 998 students from elementary, high, and middle schools, found that up to 72 per cent of females prefer to share their feelings and express them with friends.

Students need friendship because of differences between their genders. Xueqin & Mei (2016) have distinguished friendship between female and male students. While male students are motivated to make friends based on material activities, female students view friendship in terms of emotional connections and communication. Female students create their personality through communication. They can also learn from others and exchange values. At a young age, male students may meet someone who has a different opinion than they do. The choice is between accepting this value (accept friend) and dislodging it (break friends). This will allow them to form their own total valuation of society. The male students’ personality functions in the same way as the females. Although their same-sex friendships will not last as long, male students’ personalities will influence their friends more than the friends of their female friends. The formation of a male characteristic is completed when friends influence one another. If friendships last, friends are often able to share similar personalities.

There is more to personality development in schools than the gender differences between male and female. Girls are more familiar with females than boys and have a greater understanding of males. Friendships with people of the same gender mean that you will have friends who can understand one another better than yourself. Friends will begin to compare each other and start competing through the same hobbies or activities. But competition can be harmful. If there is conflict between the two of you, then it can cause a breakup and other negative effects on your friendship.

Summary: Same-sex relationships play a major role in personality formation during early adolescence. Different genders have different effects on how teenagers view the world.



Jacob Cunningham is a 26-year-old education blogger and teacher who resides in the Pacific Northwest. Jacob's teaching and writing focus on the use of technology in the classroom, and he is a frequent presenter at education conferences around the country. Jacob's work has been featured on sites such as The Huffington Post, Edutopia, and TechCrunch.